Let’s call it like it is: The Family Court Professionals of Washington have shredded due process rights for domestic violence victims, putting victims and children in harm's way. It’s not just outrageous—it’s dangerous. This madness stops now. Our mission? To restore safety, due process, accountability, and transparency in protecting domestic violence victims in the Family Court System. Because knowledge is power—and we’ve spend years collecting receipts.
Here’s the tea: Family Courts have become an unholy mashup of unchecked power, secrecy, and profit-driven bad decisions that would make even the shadiest Vegas casino blush. These courts act like criminal courts, but instead of holding abusers accountable, they treat battered victims, most often mothers, like villains, throwing around Abuser Play Book made up terms such as Parental Alienation, Abusive use of Conflict, Emotional Impairment, Resist Refuse Dynamic, Restrictive Gatekeeping, Parent Child Contact Problems PCCP, and a host of other terms to run cover for an abuser. They operate behind a cloak of secrecy with zero accountability. RICO laws? Yeah, those anti-organized crime rules—let’s just say the Family Court Industrial Complex have earned themselves a spot on that list.
To explain how we got here, let’s get one thing straight: we’re not bashing good dads. Honest, loving biologically literate fathers aren’t the problem and they’re allies of children's safety. But the “Fathers’ Rights” movement? Oh dear, that’s just “Abusers’ Rights” in a purchased disguise. When we talk about abuse in the courts, we’re talking about cases they love to label “high conflict.” Newsflash: 85+% of those cases aren’t just messy—they’re cases of domestic violence, often including child abuse. Not so fun fact: WA Family courts do not consider Child Abuse as an act of Domestic Violence.
This is more than a family drama—it’s a public health crisis wrapped in biological exploitation, tied up with a human trafficking bow. Even the UN is blasting a horn of the atrocities. It’s brutal. It’s systemic. And it’s targeting mothers because of the one thing they can’t change: their biology. We don't remove bear cubs from a mama for good reason. Let’s not mince words: predators weaponize motherhood, preying on the most primal instincts of women to protect their kids—no matter the cost. These court-approved antics don’t just ruin lives; they end them.
It’s time to pull back the curtain, expose the profit-driven rot, and stop the regression that regressives tout as diversity and fairness. The Family Court system has gone rogue, but we’re here to call it out and bring it back in line. Because if you think we’re going to sit quietly while kids are exploited, being abused, depressed, failed at every institutional level, are suicidal and begging for help to the tone deaf decision makers? Think again.
Family courts often fail victims, particularly in custody disputes involving domestic abuse. The Polaris report shows courts frequently overlook the links between trafficking, coercion, and abuse, leading to custody losses and often placing children with abusers. This lack of understanding re-traumatizes survivors, including children, and undermines their efforts to have safe lives.
Mothers in U.S. family courts are facing a civil rights crisis, with judges making rulings that undermine maternal rights and child welfare. A notable case involves a Virginia judge ordering a mother to cease breastfeeding to accommodate the father's visitation, disregarding the health implications for both mother and child. Advocates are calling on the U.S. Department of Justice to investigate these systemic violations of mothers' rights within the family court system.
In "Abusive Men Describe the Benefits of Violence," Chuck Derry reflects on how men who batter admit to using violence to instill fear, gain control, and enforce subservience. Despite these admissions, family courts often overlook or minimize such behavior, allowing abusers to retain power over their victims through custody battles and legal rulings. This systemic failure not only condones the abuse but also perpetuates the harm to survivors and their children.
In her Psychology Today article, Dr. Christine B.L. Adams examines the psychological harm shared physical custody can inflict on children. While 50/50 custody is often seen as fair, it can force children to suppress their needs, leading to instability and anxiety. When an abusive parent uses shared custody as a tool for control, it exacerbates the harm, leaving children caught in an environment of ongoing manipulation and coercion.
In domestic violence custody cases, courts often exhibit a double standard that disadvantages protective mothers and endangers children. Aggressive legal tactics by alleged abusers are frequently permitted, while mothers face pressure to accept unsafe settlements and are discouraged from presenting evidence of abuse. Additionally, discredited theories not based on research are sometimes given undue influence, further undermining fair outcomes.
The Saunders Study, conducted by the National Institute of Justice, examined child custody evaluators' beliefs about domestic abuse allegations and their impact on custody recommendations. The study found that evaluators often lack specific knowledge in areas such as screening for domestic violence, risk assessment, post-separation violence, and the effects of domestic violence on children. This knowledge gap can lead to custody and visitation decisions that may not adequately protect survivors and their children.
Maternal instinct is not simply based on emotions, a sense of duty, or a choice. “Microchimerism (Mc) refers to the harboring of a small number of cells (or DNA) that originated…primarily from maternal cells in her progeny, or cells of fetal origin in women.” “The otherness of self: microchimerism in health and disease.” Trends in immunology vol. 33,8 (2012).
“The vast majority of the time, children who are the victims in homicide-suicide cases die at the hands of their fathers or male caregivers.” And the Center for Judicial Excellence, a California-based non-profit, reports that fathers have been responsible for 70% of children killed in cases where parents were divorcing or separating since 2008.
“Abusive fathers are more than twice as likely to seek sole custody of their children than non-abusive fathers, and family courts award them joint or sole custody almost three-fourths of the time” Resource Center on Domestic Violence: Child Protection and Custody, 2023. Many fathers who are thus granted custody kill their children, such that a sizeable portion of the nation’s child murders by parent are the result of placement by family courts.
Mothers are systematically losing custody for attempting to protect their children from abuse “removals of custody from alleging mothers are common: mothers alleging a father’s abuse lost custody in 28.4% (384/1353) of all cases, ranging from a low of 22.6% (when alleging adult domestic violence) to a high of 55.6% (when alleging both physical and sexual child abuse). When a mother alleged any type of child abuse, she had 1.7 times greater odds of losing custody than when she alleged domestic violence” “Denial of Family Violence in Court: An Empirical Analysis and Path Denial of Family Violence in Court: An Empirical Analysis and Path Forward For Family Law Forward For Family Law” Joan S. Meier GeorgeWashington University Law School.
Mothers are targeted and exploited by perpetrators through their most fundamental biological maternal instincts to their children “more than 35 percent of respondents with children reported that they had children with their exploiter. Of those with children, many respondents reported that at some point they had been threatened with or lost custody of their children, either to the state or to someone else, including their exploiter” “In Harm’s Way How Systems Fail Human Trafficking Survivors.” Polaris Project. Pg.35.
“Gender bias is frequently uncovered in custody disputes (Rosen & Etlin, 1996) and often leads to mistrust of women—in particular to the belief that they make false allegations of child abuse and domestic violence… These include mothers being punished for reporting abuse, unfair financial settlements, and mothers being held to higher standards than fathers. In a study of appellate state court decisions, sole or joint custody was awarded to an alleged or adjudicated batterer in 36 of 38 cases, several of which involved severe battering and multiple convictions. However, two thirds of these cases were reversed on appeal.” Child Custody Evaluators’ Beliefs About Domestic Abuse Allegations: Their Relationship to Evaluator Demographics, Background, Domestic Violence Knowledge and Custody-Visitation Recommendations. Daniel G. Saunders, Ph.D., Kathleen C. Faller, Ph.D., Richard M. Tolman, Ph.D. Pg 11.
The courts are removing children from their primary attachment figure, which is almost always the mother and placing them with abusive fathers. This causes acute ongoing toxic stress to children resulting in high ACE scores “Persons who had experienced four or more categories of childhood exposure, compared to those who had experienced none, had 4 to 12-fold increased health risks for alcoholism, drug abuse, depression, and suicide attempt; a 2- to 4-fold increase in smoking, poor self-rated health, ≥50 sexual intercourse partners, and sexually transmitted disease; and a 1.4 to 1.6-fold increase in physical inactivity and severe obesity.” “Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study” 1998 American Journal of Preventive Medicine. Pg 3.
Protective mothers, who have committed no crimes, are treated worse than criminals for speaking the truth in Washington's family court industrial complex. The children that are relying on the protective mother and the courts to act in their best interest are failed, leading to a potentially catastrophic trajectory for their lives. The reality is the Family Courts are leading society into the dark ages as they weaponize against abused Mothers and Children for profit and ideology. We have a duty and an obligation to do something about it.
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